The root of all heartache


Came across this on Pinterest. The statement struck me at first as rather flawed, but the more I really thought about it, the more I saw the truth in it.  Expectations have potential to ruin a lot of things. But, I’m going to focus more on a dating relationship in this post.

A lot of people get themselves tangled in a relationship for all the wrong reasons. I can really only speak from a girls point of view, but a relationship can provide a lot of security. Being with a guy makes one feel accepted…..for a time….., it can make one feel safe emotionally, less lonely, someone to always go to, etc. But most of those things only last a while or come here and there. They’re temporary.

Most girls go into a relationship expecting the poor fella to meet all her needs. To always sympathize when she’s upset. To understand everything about the typical female language. To be interested in every single one of her interests. To tell her everyday how beautiful she is to him and how much he loves her. The list goes on and on.

In reality, a guy can never ever meet all those expectations 24/7. That’s asking him to be a god. Which is impossible for the poor guy. So, a lot of relationships end. I’m not completely blaming girls here, btw. Guys expect a lot of girls too. I’m just writing from a standpoint that I’ve experienced and can better relate to.

But, some expectations are good to have. To expect a guy to faithful at all times, treat girls with respect, love the Lord, be a leader in the family, etc.

Expectation is the root of all heartache. That doesn’t mean though that those expectations are necessarily wrong. Some expectations help you pinpoint exactly what you want in someone. There comes a point when you have to know which expectations are true, legitimate ones, and which ones are just stupid and nonsense. More often than not, I’ve found, girls have ridiculous expectations of their men. It’s so sad to watch the guys try and try, but fail time and time again.

I’m not encouraging one to lower their expectations, only to figure out which ones are the real and necessary ones.


4 thoughts on “The root of all heartache

  1. I’ve thought this many times- unrealistic expectations set people up for failure. Kids, husbands, ourselves- a lot of stress and disappointment comes from unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves and others. Your posts are always so wise. 🙂

  2. I totally agree with “Mom’s Heart”, Courtney….
    expectations put in the wrong place/person lead to hurt/heartache!
    I sure have learned the the hard way!

    I love your ponderings!


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